When I published last week’s Trini Trent TV, “A Hit Song is What You Make It,” an interesting conversation started in the YouTube comment section. While discussing the pop charts, the definition of classic songs came into focus.
I formerly separated classic songs into four main categories. First, those tunes that defined an era of pop music, specifically a period of time. For example, Montell Jordan’s 90s anthem, “This is How We Do It.”
Second, classic songs can also represent certain genres of music. This is typified by Tupac Shakur and Dr. Dre’s “California Love” being a hip hop classic. Also, Little Richard’s rock and roll gem “Tutti Frutti.”
Monster hits comprised my third category of classic songs. Indeed, they made such a major impact on the charts that they are ingrained in our memories. For instance, Whitney Houston’s “I Will Always Love You” and Boyz II Men’s “End of the Road.”
Finally, I listed classic songs according to their prominence in different seasons. As such, Mariah Carey’s “All I Want for Christmas is You” matched this qualifier as a Holiday classic.
Just my opinion
All of these definitions, however, were based on my point of view. In other words, they suited me and were often not in line with other people’s ideas. Unfortunately, I didn’t appreciate those differences, and that was the basis of my frustration.
For those of us who understand the struggle of trying to convert people to our way of thinking, differing perceptions cause stress. Simply, as social beings, we want to be in sync with others, especially on our terms.
However, we all have individual experiences, socialisation and cultures. Therefore, the way we consume and relate to our worlds, including pop culture, is unique.
This is what I learned from trying to impress my ideas onto other people: I was seeking validation. Honestly, I wanted people to agree with me because it meant my views had value.
I stopped judging
Is it a problem when people don’t agree with you? No. Are your views only valid when they’re shared by the majority? No. What matters is that you cherish your own perspective and give people the space to express theirs.
Differences aren’t problems. Rather, they make the world more interesting. Thus, instead of seeing disagreements as sources of stress, regard them as reminders of beautiful we are when we stand in our truths.
Watch this week’s episode of Trini Trent TV for my full explanation of these points. Also, take this quote with you.
“Sometimes, the situation is only a problem because it is looked at in a certain way. Looked at in another way, the right course of action may be so obvious that the problem no longer exists.” – Edward de Bono