4. Recognise when it’s time for change.
If someone’s success has made you uncomfortable, use that as an opportunity to take stock of your own life. Honestly, a period of meditation and self-reflection can help you make some much needed changes.
List the things you enjoy about your life at this moment. Then, highlight those aspects you want to improve. Specifically, pay attention to what you can actually change instead of what is beyond your ability to control. The point of this is to tap into your personal power, not additional frustration.
Use anxiety as a signal that it may be time for a change. Be honest about what you want to achieve and take the steps to make it happen.
“For the past 30 years, I have looked at myself in the mirror and asked myself, ‘If today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘no’ too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” – Steve Jobs
5. Stay true to your journey.
When people on my social media feeds share their achievements, they rarely mention the work that was required to make them a reality. Really, the hours they spend reading boring journals are not as exciting as the resulting master’s degree.
The only time I saw certain people on my timeline was during their celebrations without any insight into their journeys. Thus, the social media envy I experienced was linked to me thinking my life was progressing too slowly.
Regardless of what path you’ve chosen for yourself, commit to it fully. Be patient and avoid giving up because the results aren’t coming quickly. In fact, when the breakthrough happens, you will value the entire process so much more.
“Look at a stonecutter, hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without so much as a crack showing in it. Yet, at the 101st blow, it will be split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it but all those that had gone before.” – Jacob A. Riis
6. Trust yourself.
Committing to your journey involves trusting you. When you see other people excelling on social media, especially if they have similar backgrounds to you, it is easy to start second guessing yourself.
You wonder if you chose the right degree programme, career path, workout plan or relationship. Furthermore, as you lose confidence in your decisions, you try imitating what works for other people with the hopes of having similar success.
Your life is your life. The only person who can live it is you, and you are the only person who truly understands what you need to grow.
“Trust yourself. Doubt nothing that comes from inspiration. Deny nothing that comes from imagination. Dismiss nothing that comes from intuition. Life is a living canvas.” – Dorien Israel
7. Try giving.
Escaping the negative mindset of social media envy also involves looking at the world with fresh eyes. You can do this by getting out of your own head and devoting parts of your day to helping others. This teaches you to be a supporter instead of a detractor.
I do this by performing random acts of kindness. When I see people struggling in the gym, for example, I help by spotting them or offering advice. Instead of worrying that they will someday surpass me, I think of how I needed help in the past. Basically, I’m helping the younger me by helping others.
Each day, do something for the good of other people. It will not only make them happy but it will also bring you a sense of joy.
“You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you.” John Bunyan